GENDENTITY: Androgyny, Equality & Community
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Gendentity: Androgyny, Equality & Community

Everything... Always... Matters!

Capt Luke Marker, USAFA Class of 2004

I am a tough coach.  I have always been that way.  Don't believe me? Then ask my younger brother.  Ask him about the summers running drills on the basketball court.  Ask him about me having him do push ups for missing free throws; burning his hands on the hot pavement (if you listen to his rendition of the story) and working post-up moves against a relentless opponent, me, for hours on end.  Now, I did every single push up with him (his story is I was on the grass) and it was my time and effort on the court coaching him and helping him get better, so I wasn't a tyrant.  I just knew, way back then, that Everything... Always... Matters!



In high school the basketball team would put on coaching clinics for the grade-school kids, and we'd end the clinics with scrimmages between teams to practice the skills we had worked on.  Our team went undefeated my senior year; we had some good players, I had two separate coaches' kids on my team that year, and I was a tough coach, but I would have sacrificed the win every single time to make sure the players where ...
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Nevada, Who's Your Daddy? : Emotional WMDs


Billions of dollars have been spent on a war started because we were told that Weapons of Mass Destruction (WMD) are a threat to every soul on the planet, and no one was safe whilst an "evil" men had access to them.  Those WMDs were never found and yet the war still rages on.  However, the most powerful and lethal WMDs reside within EVERY person on the planet.  Inside of our negative thoughts and words toward ourselves and others.  They create the pain and the hurt, the hate and the greed in this world.  Isn't it time that we all just decide that emotional WMDs, negative thoughts and words, are no longer an option and we eradicate them from our lives on a global scale? In their place we will choose love, support, unity, equality, creativity, variety, healing, and wholeness, and it will revolutionize our community, regardless of how great or small it is.   ... << MORE >>

A Child Of Divorce: From Confusion To Contentment

Hello Reign Drops..


I'd like to take a moment to introduce everyone to my cousin, Michelle Fox (www.michellefox.com), a psychologist, intuitive healer, and soon to be divorcée who has begun a blog for those who have had to go through separation or divorce. She is very cognizant of the various relationships that exist today, and has enlisted the help of guest authors to help speak to separation and divorce in their particular voice. She has had both heterosexual males and females contribute, and this week, she has added the LGBT voice to her blog and invited ...

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Tarot Card Reading: How Well Will I Do With One24?

Hey Reign Drops...

Hope you all are doing well today!   Here's a few I Am statements for you to masticate on that have been doing wonders for me in the last couple of days.  I am significant and I am joyful!  I'm going to talk about I am statements in the next few blog posts, so be on the look out for that.  However, I wanted to show you guys something a bit personal that I did today, because I just thought it so amazing.  I decided to do one of those tarot card readings that they offer on Tarot.com.  As you all may know One24 is something that I have already experienced as life changing.  I should be getting my first check in the next day or two, and my second check within the next week and a half.  It is pretty exciting for not just me, but also for the people who I have gotten involved with it.   Well I decided to do a Tarot reading and ask the question, "How well will I do with One24?"  Here for you all, is the answer! 



Your Question: how well will I do with one24
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Linkedin.com: No Place For The Likes Of You

Hey Reign Drops, 

How are you doing today?  Me?  LOL.. I'm... I'm me!  It has truly been an emotional past few days, maybe even weeks.  As I stated in my facebook status update, yesterday was a day of emotion on top of emotion, inside of emotion inside of another emotion all mixed up with another emotion.  I can't say if how I am feeling is good or bad, it just is.  

I wonder how many of you have had the opportunity to see my new business cards.  I really enjoy them, and they are part of the branding that I am currently putting myself through.  I'll show you the front of them, and you can tell me what you think of them.



Familiar picture isn't it?  =].  Well if you google Justice Calo Reign, then every profile I have will come up with this picture.  Why?  because I am branding my authentic self.  Why?  Because I am significant and meaningful, and the full expression of who I am is nothing to be hidden or embarrassed about.  I take great joy in who I am.  I take great comfort in walking it out in the light of day and in the eye of public scrutiny..
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A Question For Christians: Did Jesus Do What You Say He Did?

Hey Reign Drops, 

So right now I'm a baller on a budget!  So where previously in my life I could make purchases without having to really know the price of an item, I am well aware of the cost of everything I buy these days and seek to fit it into my budget.  Well the other day, I was heading to pick a friend up from the airport, and I had to stop and put gas in the car before I could get on the road. I have a ridiculous sweet tooth, and so I went inside to purchase either some skittles, or some gummy something-or-other, and then put an additional $20 bucks down to pay for my gas.  I was so distracted with my candy, that I left the store, got in the car and was 10 minutes down the road before I ever realized I never put the gas in the car!



I was so disgusted with myself at first, and then I realized I had no reason to be upset.  It's an honest mistake.  Shoot, it's a mistake that even Jesus Christ himself seems to have made; well at least according to how most Christians today tell the story.  "What in the world is this crazy talking about now?"  I can hear many of you saying.  Well let me just tell the story ...
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Is It Harder To Be A Man Or A Woman?

"Girl, people don't know!  It is DAMN HARD TO BE A WOMAN!"

I wonder if people really know how difficult it is to be a woman.  It doesn't matter if you're female, or if you're male, it is difficult to be a woman.  You see, man and woman is something that ONLY exists inside of the human race.  I can't speak for other species off the planet, all I can speak for is on this planet.  Man and woman are social constructs and social constructs only.   No person is born a man or a woman, it is something that must be taught, learned, and practiced.  What it means to be a man and what it means to be a woman means different things in different cultures, and it is something that has changed through out history and time.   ... ... << MORE >>

Pee Wee Football and Pom Poms!

Hey Reign Drops!!!!!

If the first time you ever came in contact with me was within the last 4 years, then I can imagine that you might really have a difficult time trying to figure out who I am and where I come from.  While those who grew up with me probably would have never imagined that I would be the person who I am right now, but then again, they're not surprised in the least bit.  A friend of mine and I were reminiscing back to our days when I was in Pee Wee (Pop Warner) football and she was in the cheer leaders just yesterday, and she said she always wondered what I'd be when I grew up. LOL!  She said,"You haven't changed a bit!"  


    
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Tamarrah... Is No More.

Hey Reign Drops!

You know how people always say that, if they ruled the world, they would be a benevolent dictator and make sure everyone was taken care of?  I've said it myself!  But the more that I think about it, I'm not sure I would be. I have made a habit, as of late, of killing off my own personalities when they no longer serve a purpose for me.  If I don't even spare myself, how would I treat people I never....um,  was?  Let me explain a bit more what I'm talking about before I get back on the topic of Tamarrah.  



 In one of the last conversations I had in person with my mother, the name change from Floyd Hadden to Justice Calo came up.  It wasn't crazy like some people may assume.  She basically asked me what I wanted her to call me.  I told her Justice.  She said, "I'm a child of the revolution.  I'll call you whatever you want to be called."  You see, my mother was an intellectual, and my understanding, is that in the height of the civil rights movement, we actually took on African names and gave back our "slave" names.  I was too young to remember, but I know that we all had African names for awhile.  Not to mention, I grew up in the Judeo-Christian tradition; the Bible is chocked full of stories of God changing someone's name from this into that as a sign of the changing  relationship with them.  Abram was changed to Abraham, Simon was changed to Peter and so on.

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The Question For Drag Queens by Kola Boof: My Response

Hey Reign Drops...  My friend Kola Boof wrote an article responding to some concerns about my recent trip to New York.  It is led off by a letter from an "openly gay black man" who took great offense at how Kola and I represented the LGBTQ community.  This is my response to his letter, and her essay, The Question For Drag Queens, by Kola Boof.

Dear Darren Carruthers, 

I think you need to really examine yourself a bit more before you start pointing out splinters in the eyes of others.  I do not see how I single handedly degraded the LGBT community by coming out to support Kola in the manner that she asked me to.  I find your words in your letter to be more reprehensible and offensive.  In essence you called me big, a minstrel show and an uncle tom.  Apparently you think that disparaging me and calling up outdated, and divisive imagery is what's necessary to bring forth better understanding?  I emphatically disagree.

                        

I most certainly did  not conduct myself as a "minstrel show' nor did I look like a caricature of anyone.  If you asked me I looked beautiful; and conducted myself with esteem, courage and class.  Please tell me how poorly I represented the LGBT community?  Your issue has nothing to do with how I acted, or how I looked for the evening, you issue is with what I said. Since you took issue with what I said, I would think you would take extra care ...
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